This craze for fulfilment is encouraged by psychologists, psychotherapists and others. But it seems to me that fulfilment is a totally wrong word in human relationship. What are you fulfilling for, towards what? Is it that by having a sexual relationship you are fulfilling? Which means what? That you are fulfilling your pleasure, your desire, your central egotistic urge, which is really the demand for fulfilment. Does it not imply exploitation of another? It seems to me that when we use the word ‘fulfil’, there is the implication that I am using another. What is the need or the urge to fulfil? What are you fulfilling? Is it your pleasure? Is it your desire? Is it your unexpressed, deep loneliness, which demands that, to escape from this fear of loneliness, trying to fulfil your desire, your escape, through another? These are the many factors involved in that word. So I think that word is most unfortunate in any kind of relationship. If you love another, you don’t say, ‘I am fulfilling myself’ – it sounds so terribly selfish.